Last Saturday I was surprised by a call. It was the matchmaker! Well my only mistake is being born Indian in a conservative family!!! Well 30 and single seem to be looked like a family curse by people from the clan as I will say it again!!! NO! Please do not mistake me. I’m proud to be born Indian but to be looked down and low at just because I’m single at 30 is definitely not something I’m proud to be part of.
I’m a late bloomer I will say in the career line. I screwed up my first degree. Started as a clerk though finished my degree with just Higher Diploma for 4 years before reality and trust was earned back from my parents. With that I applied for PTPTN loan, which I am still financing till this stage and after 6 years I am now in the position I am in with a degree! Many people gasp when they hear I am 30 because they say I’m innocent and chatty like someone who still does not know the world! I mean what crap! But anyway this is the scenario, being single and bla bla my mother took me to meet a matchmaker in Ipoh.
Ok first intro done. The lady saw me and did comment about my weight which I will agree that I am big that will make any guy look like my son when I walk next to them. So that’s over and done with it. So stage one she introduced me to a guy who was 6 days younger than me. ONLY 6 DAYS WHAT!!!! Many will say and I will agree but there were other issues with that guy as well. He was stingy and did not believe in calling or smsing and he seemed not so keen and brought the issue of me being 6 days older into the picture! So, ok go fly kites was my reaction. Since then I’ve not heard from this lady and then suddenly Saturday she calls the house and tells my mum there’s guy No.2!!
When my mother told me the name of the guy I was like… could it be HIM? I mean I know a guy with that name through chat like 10 years ago!!! I remember him well because he took me out for lunch for my 21st birthday! MIND you!!! YES 21st BIRTHDAY and I’ll be 30 this year!!!!!. Anyway told my mother that I knew that guy and for some reason we’ve lost contact the past 4 years.
So he called me yesterday out of the blues. He really made an impression saying how well he remembers me and for one minute I was like “WOW” not bad this guy, he remembers me!! So he was sweet to say he wants to meet my parents and how I’ve known him since I was 21 and bla bla bla and that we should meet for a drink this Saturday and bla bla bla.
Today I got a call from the matchmaker and she asked me “girl, have u not lost weight?” and I was like, “aunty I have but I cannot say, u have to see me and judge me for that!” then she told me that the guy she intro me “tak jadi” or did not work because the boy’s mum called her and said I was too big for her son! I was like “WTF”!!!!!! I’m sorry for my rudeness and words I mean he was really sweet on the phone and I thought I really made an impression and guess I did make an impression on the wrong end!!
The thing that was disappointing is that this guy could have given an excuse as he knows me as a friend and so now to get into proposal is not a good idea and instead ambushed me with my weight! HELLO!!! I’m way lot smaller now compared to how he used to see me and he had put on way much weight from those days as well (scanned him on facebook). I mean I am just very surprised. He could have at least met up with me first before drawing conclusions! Anyway he is way shorter than me and I knew that but I didn’t want to tell the matchmakers anything because I did not want her to turn back to me and say “you’re already huge and it’s not right for you to ditch people off”!!!
I’m 30 people say and I should stop being choosy but how much more are they going to push me around? How much must I do to show I’m genuine!? I just don’t know what to say anymore. I am just so sad and disappointed that I can strangle the first person I meet!!! It’s really sad I tell you to be rejected just because you are fat!!! And knowing I was not even given a chance to show that I’ve lost tremendous weight and planning to reach my ideal weight in the next 5 months makes me feel like a whole lot of a loser!!!! This is just unfair and so hurting to even type anymore……………………
I think in the future I’ll tell the matchmaker to make an appointment for me to meet the guy straight first. If he thinks he likes me, we will talk otherwise he might as well FO! I think I’m worth more than just a toy!!!! I don’t think I’ve ever been this hurt to be this rude in my expression my entire life!!!!! But you would just not understand this situation unless you’ve been through it ………………………………………………
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I know how it is, the disappointments u get when it comes to finding the right guy when u have a weight problem. It's hard when it happens, but as time passes u know that the guy wasn't right for u. And for all that heartache u go through, there will be a guy who is the right one for u, around the corner...(That's what I tell myself anyways.) :)
Hey Anu,
glad u know what i mean. U know, hope is all we girls have but sometimes it just bends to that stage that just clouds practical thinking :)
hope we find someone nice in Bali la!!! :p U scan for me and I scan for u. we shall start from the airport :p heheh or the bus to LCCT KEKEKEKEKE
Its sad that in this day an age with so much advancement there is such thinking. While I am an advocate of traditional values and beliefs and respect its way in life sometimes I just wanna uncover my mouth and say WTF!!!!
Vadai, I'll say Well done. WTF!!!! says it all!!! :)
Wah! I can really can feel it emotionally... I truly understand what u r going through ka... dun worry surely God will bless you wit da right person soon... :)
Da hell wit da loosers!
Hei Bouncy! Go easy on urself. Ok?
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